Do you get along with her?

My Dad and Anna.


My father stayed with me through my duration at MD Anderson. We were definitely an unusual dynamic. Most patients are there with there spouses, but John had to stay behind in Denver for work. Then next obvious caregiver would be someone's mother. My mother had flown out and stayed with me in Denver while I went through treatment there. It just happened to work out that my dad, who is semi-retired, could leave his life in Florida behind for several months and look after me. He and my stepmother, Anna, have an orchid nursery in Fort Myers, so she stayed behind to run things while he was with me in Houston.


One day while we were waiting to see my Radiologist, me and my dad were talking with one of my nurses Gary. Gary was probably my favorite nurse. He, like most, was also curious why I was there with just my dad, so that day he started asking more questions. He asked where my mom was, and if my parents were still married. They are not, so then he asked if my dad was remarried.


“Yeah, I've been remarried for 20 years.” My dad said.

“Do you get along with her?” Gary was asking me now.

I took a second before answering. Of course Anna and I had our own growing pains, but we get along incredibly well. She'll never be my mother, but she is still a parent to me. Her sense of humor is probably even more crude than mine, which might be part of why we get on so well.


In an attempt to through Gary off guard I replied, “That bitch? I've been trying to get rid of her for years.” Both Gary and my dad did a double take before they realized it was a joke. The funny part is if Anna had been there she would have laughed instantly.

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05.11 | 16:12

I am so sorry you had to experience this, Becky. But one thing no stinking fire can take away from you is this: You're an awesome writer. Keep on producing!!

15.04 | 16:00

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15.04 | 03:48

Wow. IHow are you doing with the Teratocarcinosarcoma. I was diagnosed with it last September.

15.11 | 18:32

Wow! What an inspirational story! I hope that you continue to share. And for those that don't get it. Try and fit in her shoes one day.