The new normal

I used to be very proud that all of my past relationships started organically. Meaning that two people met each other face to face for the first time, had a feeling about each other, and it was magic!..... At least for a while.

For me the idea of online dating has always been highly uncomfortable. I’m not sure why. Maybe it is just because I am completely unfamiliar with it, or because the Catfishing phenomenon has become so prevalent… I’m more comfortable in person, what you see is what you get. The problem is, I don’t want to go to bars, I don’t necessarily want to be setup by anyone, and I try not to date people from the gym (it is my sanctuary so I try not to taint it with romantic drama).

Almost all of my friends, that didn’t marry their high school or college sweethearts, have dabbled in the online dating scene. When I worked in the jewelry biz, about 3 out of 5 people shopping for rings met online. It has become the new normal.

Once the evidence begins to show itself, one begins to wonder, what’s this dating website all about? Maybe I should look into it… Full disclosure: still on the recent backswing from yet another failed relationship, I was feeling a bit blue since the person I used to talk to everyday is not there anymore, and I was looking for a distraction.  So, I hopped online and within minutes I had opened myself up to cyberspace.

It has been less than a week, and I am O-VER-WHELMED!!!!

Within the first 24 hours I had over 300 people message and/or “Like” me. Is that normal? I don’t even know what’s normal…. Is it because I’m new and they smell blood in the water? Is this the pace it will stay at? I just don’t know! And, I feel bad, because I’m not able to give everyone the consideration that they likely deserve. It’s just too much, so I’m forced into making cut-throat, fast decisions that might make me sound like an asshole: Are you my height or shorter? Nope, sorry I like wearing heels too much. Is there a cigarette hanging from your mouth in your photo? 100% NO! Drinks often? Sorry, I rarely drink at all. Does drugs sometimes? Nope, nope, nope. Super political? PASS. Super religious? Good for you, but no.

I truly feel that the majority of the people on these sites are good people, nice people that are in similar boats as me. However, since being online, and this is the dirty corner stuff, I have been offered a position as someone’s “Submissive,” no, no, if anyone is holding the riding crop it's going to be me. I have been approached by a “Rope Bondage Artist,” uuuhhhmmmm, excuse me, you want to do what?? Several couples have reached out to me to be their +1, not to mention the married men that are looking for a new side piece.  

Many of the messages I get are funny and/or thoughtful, others are along the lines of, “Wut up girl, you fine. Wanna get together?” Umm. Nope. Sure don’t.

Again, less than a week……

It may be time to write this off as a failed experiment, log off, and go back to my couch and ice cream where I belong.

Latest comments

05.11 | 16:12

I am so sorry you had to experience this, Becky. But one thing no stinking fire can take away from you is this: You're an awesome writer. Keep on producing!!

15.04 | 16:00

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15.04 | 03:48

Wow. IHow are you doing with the Teratocarcinosarcoma. I was diagnosed with it last September.

15.11 | 18:32

Wow! What an inspirational story! I hope that you continue to share. And for those that don't get it. Try and fit in her shoes one day.